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Child Abusers Dont Deserve Sympathy

26604066I have seen a few things lately talking about child abuse and how the abusers shouldnt be dealt with aggressively, but they need to be counseled and that they only do it because they themselves were abused.
That makes me so mad, i mean maybe they were abused but that doesn’t mean they must become abusers themselves, there is only one word that describes a parent who would harm their child, evil.
I was abused as a child in every way imaginable physically, sexually, emotionally, i went without food for days at a time and had to steal to feed my younger sister, so i know what it means to suffer, but i would never, could never hurt my children or any child, in fact because of what i went through i am very emotional about a childs feelings and well being, i have no problem at all stepping in and stopping someone even if i just think they are talking to their child inappropriately. I have never and will never stand by and do nothing if i think a child is in any danger, even if that means putting myself in danger to stop it.
People who abuse their children do not need to be counseled they need to be put in prison for life and have the other inmates treat them the way they treated their kids. Being abused as a child is not an excuse to grow up and abuse your children. But anyway that was a little venting on my part but please if you suspect any child is being harmed dont just let it go, make a difference call the police, do something. If you think something bad is happening to a child and do nothing, then you are just as guilty as the abuser. No child deserves to be hurt or forced to live in fear, and we have a responsibility to make sure they aren’t.

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23 responses

  1. I wholeheartedly agree, but the picture is not of an abuse victim. Not that they can’t look like that, but this girl was attacked by the family dog.
    I’m sorry to read about the abuse you had to endure as a child. Hugs.

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    September 22, 2014 at 5:55 pm

    • The post i got the pic from talked about abuse, but either way it was just to show what abuse can look like. Thankyou for taking the time to read and comment.

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      September 22, 2014 at 6:03 pm

  2. That is so true. You can’t change the hand you have been dealt, but you can choose what you do with it. It is a choice they make, even if they are unaware they are making it. There is NEVER an excuse. There is NEVER a reason. I also will always stand you for those to young or weak to stand up for themselves.

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    September 22, 2014 at 6:00 pm

    • Thanks hon, im glad you also stand up to protect those who cant defend themselves.

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      September 22, 2014 at 6:04 pm

  3. I agree. I dealt with dysfunction growing up, nothing to the extent that you were talking about but all it did was make me want to do better for my own children. So sorry that you went through those things but glad to see that you are not perpetuating the cycle.

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    September 22, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    • Thanks and im sorry for what you went through as well. I personally think that if you are abused that should make you be a better parent, why would someone put a person they love through the same terrible things that they went through?

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      September 22, 2014 at 6:35 pm

      • Yeah that’s how I feel too. Any time Husband is there for Son as a father I remind him that he is giving Son what he, Husband, never had.

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        September 22, 2014 at 6:41 pm

  4. My children have, by the definitions of most cultures (save Sweden and other zero tolerance Scandinavia) been very minimally abused. Harassment, exposure to violence, being slapped a bit, a kick now and then, yelling, and criticism. All occurring before the age of five, the age the oldest was when I got them out of there. This abuse has given two of them lasting problems, affected their growth, socialization, and development. I have a psychologist and a behavioural therapist to help them learn to cope with the PTSD symptoms. Abuse is very damaging to the human brain, young and old alike, even if there are no marks left on the body.
    I am in favor of zero tolerance for child abuse. Too bad our laws do not reflect even close to such a policy. I really wish parenting were taught on a wide scale.

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    September 22, 2014 at 6:21 pm

    • Im so very sorry for what your children went through, and I agree with the zero tolerance, it is sad that our laws dont.

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      September 22, 2014 at 6:38 pm

  5. The best responsr to a rotten childhood is to END the cycle of rotteness. I am so glad you have taken that course! Agree. Zero tolerance. While I agree discipline and correction are necessary in child rearing, I disagree that this should involve physical or emotional damage to the young lives dependent upon us for safety and comfort. I believe children are best taught by example. Let’s start with self control and kindness, shall we? πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

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    September 22, 2014 at 7:12 pm

    • Very well said hon, I completely agree. πŸ™‚

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      September 22, 2014 at 7:16 pm

  6. I believe in being firm with your children and will spank when called for but anyone who would strike in anger or cause their children harm make me ill. I was spanked 3 times and all 3 times I needed it but it was done in love from a controlled (not angry) parent. Those who would harm, withhold good from or otherwise make their child feel less than the beautiful God-given creature they are is, well, sick. I will never understand those who abuse those smaller, weaker and innocent. Thank you for bringing light to an avoided and sad subject. Bless.

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    September 22, 2014 at 8:27 pm

    • Great point there is a huge difference between discipline and abuse, thanks for reading and commenting.

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      September 22, 2014 at 8:32 pm

  7. Some people try to justify their errors with some irrelevant excuses. If one was abuse does that give him or her the right or permission to abuse any child? I pray God to help the innocent children that are going through such agony.

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    September 22, 2014 at 9:45 pm

  8. I was abused as a child. I chose that it would here. I am still trying to heal from the damage. But every step counts and my only direction is forward. Nine happy grandchildren show me it is the correct direction for me to travel. Hugs, Barbara

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    September 23, 2014 at 12:15 am

    • Nine grandchildren, thats awesome Hugs to you to dear

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      September 23, 2014 at 9:25 am

  9. Reblogged this on idealisticrebel.

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    September 23, 2014 at 12:16 am

  10. I So agree let them get what they gave five times as much.

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    September 23, 2014 at 2:12 pm

    • Glad you agree, thanks for reading and commenting.

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      September 23, 2014 at 2:23 pm

  11. Correct on EVERY level!!!!

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    September 30, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    • Thanks, its crazy that some people actually feel sorry for the child abusers instead of the child

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      September 30, 2014 at 6:42 pm

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