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All men are not the same

Dr. Martin Luther King jr

Dr. Martin Luther King jr

Serial killer, Ted Bundy

Serial killer, Ted Bundy


I want to talk about something that is very important to me, i want to talk about how society is developing a very negative attitude towards men. This is something that needs to be addressed and stopped.  I know that there are men who have done terrible things in this world, but there are many more men who have done extraordinary and wonderful things, and to put all men in the same category simply because they are male is preposterous. If all men are the same because they are male then it stands to reason that all women must be the same because they are female. So i ask you are all women the same as Andrea Yates, the woman who drowned her five children in her bathtub in 2001? Are all women the same as Casey Anthony, the woman who ( regardless of what the courts said)  killed her 2 year old daughter?  Are all women the same as Aileen Wuornos, the serial killer who killed 7 men, in 1989 and 1990? I could continue with hundreds more examples of women who have done evil things, but i think you get the point. Not all men are the same, not all women are the same, and it is really disturbing that there is this growing hatred for men, as if all the men in the world are responsible for the evil acts of others, just because they were male. This really bothers me, because the best people i know are men, my husband, my father, my 4 children, all of the sexism towards men is something that frightens me when i think about my boys futures. You would think that with all the intelligence people claim to have in this day and age, that they would be smart enough to know that, women and men both have the ability to do evil as well as good, and that neither sex is better than the other, we each have wonderful characteristics, and some that arent so wonderful. So please stop with all of the bullcrap about all men being the same, because if all men are the same so are all women, and if that is true then every person in the world is a murderer, a rapist, and any other vile thing you can think of. The pictures above are the perfect example of how all men are not the same. Stop the hate, it  helps nothing.

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79 responses

  1. Agreed!

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    June 2, 2014 at 11:40 am

  2. You want to know the kicker? I’ll tell you right up front. Any man that complains about being type-cast into a sexist, potentially violent and oppressive role…..gets put exactly there.
    I’ve read blog entries entitled “I don’t care that all men aren’t the same.” and I’ve seen mentions that “It doesn’t matter that all men DON’T perpetrate crimes against women, they COULD.”
    …and I don’t dare comment on them. I don’t dare try to defend myself or those who are better men than I am because it would honestly look like I’ve taken a stance in favor of sexual oppression.
    Look, sexism and violence against women is out there. I’ve seen it. There’s no denying that. But there are groups of people who damn the cultural stereotyping of minorities, while openly supporting the vilification of the male gender. I fully support any and all fighting to end sexual violence. Any human being worth their salt does. But its like fighting two fights. Fighting to end the tragic circumstances that exist, and fighting at the same time to prove that there are some of us who are not the problem.
    Great post.

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    June 2, 2014 at 11:50 am

    • I agree completely, and something i think some people seem to forget is that there is sexual violence and abuse towards men at the hands of women as well. But most of the time there is to much shame for them to report it. Thanks for stopping by and commenting, I appreciate it. Also standing up for truth is never liked by everyone, but its something that should be done all the same.

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      June 2, 2014 at 11:58 am

  3. Agreed. Everyone does not fit in the same box.

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    June 2, 2014 at 2:04 pm

  4. You’re right, all women & all men aren’t the same. Not all women are caring mothers & not all men are depraved criminals. However, there is a pervasive culture of misogyny & blaming women for crimes committed against them, like rape — questions of “what was she wearing” or “how drunk was she” would make it excusable for rapists (not all men are rapists!) to commit that crime. Horrible women who have committed equally atrocious crimes, but they serve their sentences. Because of victim-blaming/slut-shaming media & juries, many men who assault others are seen as sympathetic because “they couldn’t help themselves.”

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    June 2, 2014 at 9:46 pm

    • I dont think women have it any worse than men in this country, if a woman is raped she may be asked what she was wearing or even be called a slut, if a man is raped he would be laughed at and called pathetic and weak. The thing is people need to stop blaming a entire gender for the actions of a few, whether it be women or men. Thanks for commenting.

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      June 2, 2014 at 9:52 pm

    • While I see your point clearly- and to some extent I agree with it- the ‘culture of misogyny’ is still not the ‘fault’ if you will- of the majority of men who have never been guilty of crimes against women. To vilify all males based on a flawed system (even the ones that would fight to change it) is biting a helping hand, and unfairly branding innocents. In my eyes, this would be exactly the same as accusing all whites of race and hate crimes in spite of them being perpetrated by a handful of miscreant criminals…..simply because there had once been segregation laws on the books.
      A system is broken somewhere that needs to be fixed. Grouping everyone with a ‘Y’ chromosome into the category of “Guilty or potentially guilty” is unfair and borderline misandrist, and will do nothing to fix the problem in the long run.
      I will not argue against the plight that women face. But trying to fix a perceived culture of hate and disrespect by creating a brand new one doesn’t seem productive.

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      June 3, 2014 at 8:02 am

      • awesome response. 🙂

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        June 3, 2014 at 8:04 am

      • No one is vilifying all males, nor trying to create a culture where all men are hated. This male writer has put my points more clearly than I could in the space of a comment: http://terribleminds.com/ramble/2014/05/25/not-all-men-but-still-too-many-men/

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        June 3, 2014 at 9:07 am

      • No sorry but I disagree with a lot of what he said its more of the, women have it so hard stuff. Everyone has it hard, this man said men go on dates thinking they might not get laid, and women go on dates thinking they may get raped. That comment is so sexist I dont know where to begin. For one thing he is implying that all men are interested in sex right from the jump, which they are not. For another he is implying that men never fear getting raped, why is it so hard to just say both genders have it hard? As a woman the last thing I want is to have people feeling sorry for me because they think of me as this weak scared little person.

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        June 3, 2014 at 10:32 am

      • The author of that terribleminds post seems a bit over the top to me. First of all his condescending tone tells me right away that he is writing what he expects his audience wants to hear. He makes valid points but he relies heavily on colorful language to drive home modestly made points. It almost reads like something youd expect a guy to say who frequents anti-rape rallies looking to meet women.

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        June 3, 2014 at 6:57 pm

    • tvsinesperanto

      This is the problem with feminists (which I assume you are). You only look at one half of the issue, the part where women lose out, & completely ignore the part where men lose out.
      Yes, there are some areas where women face discrimination but there are also a huge range of areas where women are privileged & men are discriminated against. Feminists however, are unwilling or unable to see it. According to them, only male privilege is a “thing” & even the suggestion that female privilege may exist is labeled as misogynistic. It’s utter bullshit & so are the ridiculous theories they have constructed, based on zero evidence, like “Patriarchy Theory” & “Rape Culture”. We live in a culture that condones rape against women? Seriously? How many people do you know that don’t consider rape of women one of the most heinous crimes possible? Now, how many times have you heard someone make a “don’t drop the soap” joke about a man in prison? Yeah, if rape culture exists at all, it’s not about women, that’s for sure. In fact, the term “Rape Culture” was actually coined during a study of men raped in prison.
      Women are not uniquely disadvantaged when it comes to rape, in many aspects men have it far worse (nobody takes their claims seriously, they are ridiculed, told they should be grateful, women who commit statuary rape get off far lighter than men who do the same, etc.). If all that men had to worry about were questions about how much they had drunk (which is a legit question IMHO given the way rape is so loosely defined these days) we would count ourselves fortunate indeed.
      You only need to look at the atrocities committed by Boko Haram to demonstrate how women are often privileged. Boko Haram go into schools teaching western education & torture, beat, burn alive, & shoot hundreds of boys over a period of months (letting the girls go free I might add) but that doesn’t even rate a mention in western media. It’s not until they decide to kidnap (not kill, not torture, not even treat badly) a hundred or so girls that the west cares. THEN, and only then, is it a big deal.
      Boys & men are disposable in our society, & can only gain social worth by performing. Fail to perform & you are thrown on the scrap heap, you are worthless. Women, on the other hand, are considered inherently socially valuable by their mere existence. If that isn’t privilege, I don’t know what is.
      I could go on for pages & pages listing the many areas where men are disadvantaged over women but there is little point, it’s all been said before. Suffice it to say that this is why the Men’s Rights Movement exists. Feminism has been claiming for 50 years that they are working on the issues men face but have thus far managed only to consistently increase women’s privilege & men’s responsibilities. Men are sick of being told to get to the back of the bus & wait for feminism to get around to solving their issues, we are doing it ourselves now, whether feminists like it or not.

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      June 8, 2014 at 4:37 am

      • I for one am glad that men are starting to stand up for themselves and speak out on the issues that are bothering them. Thanks for commenting. 🙂

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        June 8, 2014 at 5:08 am

    • Greg Allan

      ” However, there is a pervasive culture of misogyny & blaming women for crimes committed against them, like rape — questions of “what was she wearing” or “how drunk was she” would make it excusable for rapists (not all men are rapists!) to commit that crime. ”
      For those males – boys included – sexually abused by women it never gets to that point because the male is considered a slut by default. If he complains at all HE is faulty because he didn’t want it. For those such as myself who have experienced such abuse the implication of an external cause or factor other than ‘begging for it” would actually be a significant improvement.
      If anybody is wondering why female perpetration is hardly ever reported or even spoken about by the victims it’s got a lot to do with attitudes in our communities and institutions. I’ve been fairly outspoken about female perpetration since the mid nineties. I wrote the following about two years ago summarising the sorts of responses I’ve experienced personally. It’s nowhere near exhaustive but does give you an idea. Sometimes I wonder why I persisted.
      Things I’ve been told or experienced when being overheard admitting to having been repeatedly molested by a woman as a seven and eight year old child…
      Liar.
      You must have wanted it.
      Impossible.
      You’re lucky.
      You’re privileged by it.
      Women never do that sort of thing.
      It’s harmless.
      Laughter.
      I’ve been assaulted.
      I’ve been threatened.
      I’ve been called a poofter, a fag, gay, a misogynist.
      I’ve been told it’s hateful to women.
      I’ve had feminists, who have also done all of the above, patiently explain how my male privilege prevented my aunt from NOT doing what she did. Some of them implied that I must have seduced her.
      It was legal at the time BECAUSE it was done by a woman.

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      June 10, 2014 at 7:48 pm

      • Im so sorry for what happened to you, and I wish I could take away the pain it has caused you. Thank you for sharing some of your story with me.

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        June 10, 2014 at 8:57 pm

  5. mx4b, thank you for this excellent post. What you’ve identified is the basis for a series of Misandry (hatred of men) books by McGill University academics Paul Nathanson and Katherine Young.
    Your concern over this is legitimate. I fear that the feminists driving this all-men-are-bad attitude and social policies are narcissists. They have a pathological need to make women-as-victims always true, and they have psychological defences against reason and truth, which is why it is so frustrating and difficult to try and deal with them.
    Hopefully, once society realizes their true nature, we’ll be less vulnerable to them. Until then, keep up the good work! You can’t convince feminists, but you can bring this matter to the attention of rational individuals.

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    June 2, 2014 at 10:26 pm

    • Yes I am trying to get the word out to as many people as I can, about sexism towards men. feel free to reblog any of my posts that are related. Thanks for reading and commenting.

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      June 2, 2014 at 10:32 pm

    • I am glad to find out that there is something out there beyond my own fearfully-kept secret belief that things might be going to far in the gender war.

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      June 3, 2014 at 8:05 am

      • I fear it has already gone too far. This isn’t obvious until one has the misfortune of being exposed to it. Some good books are “Divorced Dads – Shattering the Myths” (Sandford Braver) and “The War Against Boys” (Christina Hoff Sommers).

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        June 3, 2014 at 5:41 pm

  6. This is always a sensitive one. I used to be on this misandry kick when I was younger – trying to say what you said so well here. But most people don’t want to hear it, frankly. And don’t even try it now with the #YesAllWomen campaign (for lack of a better word) on Twitter where if you’re male and try to voice any sort of additional voice (like how you posted), then yes, you are likely to be “male-shamed”. What I have learned is that it’s totally okay to have the voices heard, and to not try to impose anything on those voices, but to also stand up and be seen, not always heard.

    As a male, I struggled mightily (and still do at times) to figure out what “society” deems “male”. But trying to put that identity in a box or pigeonhole is near impossible. So I just try to be the best Person I can be. I try to show my two sons how to treat women. How to treat OTHER men as well. Compassion. Empathy. Self-love. Yes, there are those who ascribe evil to men, there are those who will shout down any male-based attempt to female solidarity, there are those who will dismiss posts like yours. That’s fine. That is not my business. Living in the present, showing through actions rather than providing lip service…it’s about attraction, not promotion.

    How I live is going to shine through more than rhetoric and sloganeering.

    Thanks for this – on board with it 🙂

    Paul

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    June 3, 2014 at 8:02 am

    • Thanks for taking the time to comment, and i know that most people who have their mind made up about something, are not going to change it. but i hope that this post may at least get them to reconsider their position. also it is great that you are teaching your sons right, that is the most important thing to me, to make sure my boys are raised right. 🙂

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      June 3, 2014 at 8:15 am

    • DaPoet

      Paul you and only you have the ABSOLUTE RIGHT to define what being a male means to you and you alone – not the feminists nor society. So Go For It! 🙂

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      June 7, 2014 at 5:11 pm

  7. On the whole, it would seem to me that if the scales in the gender war are to be tipped in favor of equality, there would be a cessation of the branding of all men as potentially protected offenders, and a seeking out of the vast, overwhelming majority of men who are tired of being accused based on the actions of a handful, and making them allies in the campaign.
    I don’t know if you realize it, but even within the criminal element of society there is a disdain for the filth who commit crimes against women. Sex offenders are among the lowest of the low in the penal system and are often the targets of retribution on the inside from other inmates. You’re talking about a percentage of offenders who are looked at as sub-human…by OTHER OFFENDERS. If even the criminals can tell the difference between someone who is and isn’t a sex offender and treat them differently, why can’t the civilized segment of society?

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    June 3, 2014 at 8:10 am

    • so true, in prison they hate the sexual predators, and they make them pay dearly.

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      June 3, 2014 at 8:18 am

  8. Beautiful post. And some insightful comments. I am enjoying your blog. 🙂
    `Jae

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    June 3, 2014 at 11:05 am

  9. Reblogged this on The Mirror and commented:
    mommyx4boys decries our society’s very negative view of men.

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    June 3, 2014 at 5:43 pm

  10. Hear, hear!

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    June 3, 2014 at 6:07 pm

    • Thanks for the support. 🙂

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      June 3, 2014 at 6:15 pm

      • Many of my favourite people are men also – and I have three children – all boys – I worry about. I’ve faced, personally, more abuse at the hands of women in my life than I have of men.
        There are some really rotten PEOPLE in the world. Gender has no more to do with it than culture, skin colour, or sexual preference does.

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        June 3, 2014 at 6:20 pm

      • I agree, the people who have been the most cruel to me were women, mainly my mother, but I dont go around saying all women are terrible because of it. Thank you for commenting, It is much appreciated. 🙂

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        June 3, 2014 at 7:00 pm

  11. While neither men nor women can be cast as “all the same” as in 3 billion and 4 billion individuals, all identical, still, statistically, there are behaviors and traits that are more characteristic of one gender than the other, and these hold true when other factors are held constant. Across most if not all cultures. It is nice to make black and white distinctions like this but I am not sure, in this nuanced world, how much value it has. Your intention to honor good people is commendable, but the premises here are just too broad, from an empirical, scientific, and human developmental/behavioral point of view. Just my two cents, as a behavioral scientist.

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    June 3, 2014 at 6:37 pm

    • Thank you for sharing, but while one gender may be more likely to do something than the other, it does not give other people the right to treat all the members of that gender differently or unfairly. For example just because a dog bites someone does not mean we should start putting all dogs to sleep.

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      June 3, 2014 at 7:18 pm

      • My point is that this is a “truism”. It might be more useful to identify areas where men have been mischaracterized, based on a statistical or investigative analysis, than simply to say “all dogs do not bite everyone”. I just don’t see any foundation for discussion. Of course not all men do terrible things. Nor do women. But, of course, if you need to express something, you are doing so and it may resonate with those who glean your larger meaning. There is nothing untrue in what you are saying, but to me, and I don’t mean this in any kind of negative sense, just observing, it sounds a bit like “water is wet”. Perhaps I have missed previous discussions where you are more specific as to what prompts this one.

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        June 4, 2014 at 7:06 am

      • awww i think maybe i misunderstood some of your previous comment, my apologies. and you are right it is kinda like saying water is wet, the sad thing is there seem to be many people who just dont understand that. or just dont want to.

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        June 4, 2014 at 7:09 am

    • Interesting point- you’re saying that the propensity towards violence and sexual abuse is a gender trait characteristic of males? While the majority of gender-related crimes, assaults, and the like are- in fact, committed by males, the very truth of the matter is that the numbers are weighted differently when looked at in another perspective.
      If the vast, overwhelming majority of men in the world are NOT in any way guilty of criminal and demeaning behavior towards women, how can such negative traits be characteristic of the gender? We can literally make different arguments using the exact same logic.
      -Yes, Men may be more likely to commit one of these gender-based offenses than women are, but statistically, A MAN is not likely to ever be guilty of such things.
      Emotional abuses between females should also not go overlooked. It is a breeze to point out such things as ‘slut-shaming’ when perpetrated by men, but are women also not guilty of rampant psychological abuses towards each other on a regular basis? Is that not more characteristic of the female gender than the male? How much research would it take to find a number of cases of suicidal behavior in young girls because of it? Is this not as damaging to the female community as abuse at the hands of a man?

      Of course, not all women do this. But then, not all men are guilty of rape or misogyny either. The difference (to be almost offensively blunt) is that the crosshairs are easier to turn on an outsider than a member of your own ‘camp’ if you will.

      Again, please don’t mistake my commentary as an attempt to demean or belittle the plight of women across the world. That is not my intent. Instead, what I am trying to do is point out that a sweeping demonization results in exchanges like this one, where people like me are expending energy in defense rather than being able to focus on a proper offense to the actual problems at hand. I will also point out that I am NOT a behavioral scientist, so I might have bitten off more than I can chew picking at your comment like this, but I never could resist a good, solid debate.

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      June 4, 2014 at 7:07 am

      • Greg Allan

        What are “gender-related crimes”?

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        June 10, 2014 at 7:55 pm

  12. Well said! Our culture’s attitudes towards men have gotten really scary lately. I find it quite appalling. There are so many men in the world worthy of our admiration, men who meet the daily challenges of life so gracefully, men who take care of not only themselves, but others.

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    June 3, 2014 at 8:39 pm

    • I agree completely, thank you for commenting. 🙂

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      June 3, 2014 at 9:15 pm

  13. Mostly, I think that the stereotypes apply to uneducated people. In all categories that generalize behavior traits, usually their behaviors come from lack of understanding. You may have a person with diplomas in graduate studies, but if they don’t know anything about sensitivity towards others, they could be real jerks. Similarly, you may have a person with limited education as far as schooling is concerned, but the may know a lot on how to sympathize with others.

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    June 4, 2014 at 5:35 am

  14. In our culture today it is hard to distinguish the males from the females sometimes. Quite literally. I was a budding teen when the feminist culture was getting in gear by burning bras and screaming “EQUALITY.” The culture now is the culmination of that overbearing, feminist, collective voice. While Phyllis Schaffley (the counter part to feminism) was crucified for upholding traditional values for women, as well as, men, Gloria Steinem was upheld by the media for stifling those efforts by giving more voice to feminism. Helen Reddy’s “I AM WOMAN” was the accompaniment for the movement. The roles have been even more blurred by the acceptance of transgender-ism and the homosexual revolution. And still while everyone is shouting “EQUALITY” they are also wanting to be accepted for their differences. No, we cannot have our bras and burn them, too. “Hear me roar.”

    Men are emasculated in every way by the media and women who are bitter about not being born with a penis, or have been treated unfairly by the males in their lives. In this world we live in now….EVERYONE IS OFFENDED too easily. You are quickly labeled a bigot or homo-phobe if you dare to express yourself in any way addressing either subject that opposes today’s exuberance for tolerance of anything and everything. For this very reason, the underlying cause of ill-will towards men will always be the pervasive force that brings them to their knees in the unflattering submissive role as “equals.” While I am stating why I believe things are the way they are…I am in no way for it. I think we all should be concerned about “where have all the men gone?” and “who are they?”

    Everyone should be treated with respect and we should embrace who we are and realize that God had a plan when we were created. I applaud your blog for its honesty and real concern for the plight of men.

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    June 4, 2014 at 6:54 am

    • thank you so much, and oh my gosh i totally agree with you. now a days it is a bad thing for men to act like men, women to act like women, and for children to act like children. its also pretty sad that so many people now will not tell you the truth about how they feel on certain issues, i am not one of those people! if i dont like something i am not ashamed to say it, and i will not be stifled. i find it funny i have been told by so many women that i am a self hater because i stand up for mens rights, but i just say no i dont have self hate, i am awesome why would i hate myself. lol Thank you for commenting, and for your support. 🙂

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      June 4, 2014 at 7:05 am

      • Yes! You ARE awesome! Your sons and husband are blessed.

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        June 4, 2014 at 7:18 am

      • ohhh thank you so much, that is very appreciated. 🙂

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        June 4, 2014 at 7:20 am

    • richardinnorway

      I find it hard to understand any woman being bitter about not being born with a penis, if they had one they might soon change their minds. But when you first mention “penis envy” then I have to confess that I have and have always had “uterus envy” I wonder how many men share that feeling

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      July 23, 2014 at 4:02 am

      • Lol uterus envy? I would love nothing more than to have mine jerked out, right now especially. 😉

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        July 23, 2014 at 7:46 am

  15. What worries me the most is that the way things are being painted, women and society in general are not being told that they could be victimized by a man at some point in their lives, its that they’re being told that they could be victimized by ANY MAN at some point, and the culture allows and in some instances condones it. You’re being told that biology and society and genetic gender characteristics are conspiring against you to make the Y chromosome something to be wary of.

    There are lunatics out there. The “Men’s Rights” groups are among them. The people who believe that a woman exists to serve a man are among them. But you’re being taught that these lunatics are only problematic because of the gender traits that exist in all men. You’re not being told that “All men rape” because even the most hardcore recognize that as not true. You’re being told that “All men COULD rape.” And that message is getting stronger and louder.

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    June 4, 2014 at 9:54 am

  16. I agree, but I don’t think all men are being grouped into the same category. I feel there are some extremists who are being unfair and they are the ones giving feminism a bad name. But I feel true feminists are pursuing exactly what you are insinuating, that men and women are equals and there are areas where both are at fault and deserve praise. I do also think that while this is a fair view of the subject, this article does ignore the people who transcend the gender binary, we need to stop ignoring these people in our dialogues about gender to create a true discussion about equality.

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    June 5, 2014 at 11:26 am

    • From my experience with feminists, which isnt huge i will grant you, I have not seen that they seek equalism, but rather superiority. They are the main group of people that i was trying to reach with this post, also this article doesnt discuss people who transcend the gender binary, because i dont really know anything about that.

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      June 5, 2014 at 11:39 am

      • feminists who seek to make women superior to men are not feminists they are extremists and they give other feminists a bad name. I am a feminist but it is because I want women to be considered equal to men. The women who attack men are ignoring the true concept of equality I’ll agree with you on that and it does misrepresent feminism as a whole. However considering the scoreboard of our society and the patriarchal standards we just seem to blindly enable or accept in our culture, I can’t blame them for having a negative attitude. Men haven’t been representing themselves well lately. Plus I don’t think the women who hate men are the problem, I think the problem is the men who misrepresent the rest of men. Just as the women who misrepresent women are the problem you are addressing.

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        June 5, 2014 at 12:08 pm

      • That is one of the problems if someone wants to have a negative attitude toward a specific individual, because they have done something wrong I understand that. What I am not understanding is why they would have a negative attitude toward the entire gender. And you said men haven’t been representing them selves well lately, well my husband is a man and his actions haven’t changed, that is my point. Men should not be marked or labeled because of what a few other men have done.

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        June 5, 2014 at 12:21 pm

      • I agree, nor should all women or feminists be labeled the same because of others misrepresentation.

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        June 5, 2014 at 12:58 pm

      • Just a quick question, and im not trying to be smart or anything but if feminists are all about equality, shouldnt they be called equalists? And be fighting for everyone’s rights not just those of women?

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        June 5, 2014 at 1:10 pm

      • I agree that the term equalist would make more sense, however I think the term feminist still makes more sense at this time because not everyones rights are being trampled on equally. Eqaulism makes it sound like all oppression and suffering is the same and distributed equally when its not. We are all getting screwed, I’ll admit that, but we are not all get screwed equally and we are not all getting screwed in the same way. The term equalist I think will one day become the more dominate way of labeling the concept, but that can only be when all people are truly being oppressed in ways equal to each other. Women are not oppressed in the same way men are therefore the term equalist is premature until we truly are considered and treated as equals either.

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        June 5, 2014 at 1:30 pm

  17. Thanks for this post! I thought about while reading an article on peacebuilding and conflict resolution recently. It focused on men only as proponents, while failing to mention that it is also men, like MLK, who are risking their lives for peace. I was so angry when reading it, and I filled in so many notes in the margin! Maybe I can make a post on it next time.

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    June 7, 2014 at 10:45 pm

  18. Reblogged this on Blogger at the Edge of the Universe..

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    June 22, 2014 at 4:34 pm

  19. nawallovexo

    Very well said! People have instilled in to their minds that men are some vile creatures but that mentality is totally unfair. Not all men are the same. Every one is a different person.

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    June 30, 2014 at 8:18 pm

    • Thankyou so much, I dont know what they are trying to accomplish by drilling that into people’s heads, I mean if a young boy is always hearing that men are all the same and hearing all these bad things how do they expect them to turn out?

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      June 30, 2014 at 8:22 pm

      • nawallovexo

        Exactly! Not setting a good example to be followed. I don’t know much about kids or having kids and don’t know if I want any in the future but I do know that if I ever did I would do my hardest to keep them away from such stereo types.

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        July 1, 2014 at 7:59 am

  20. I was taught that all men are rapists. Women are supposed to be in the presence of their father, husband, or brother if also in the presence of a man not related to her. I was taught that women must sequester themselves away from men, as men cannot control themselves and are not to be blamed for what will happen if a female mixes company with them without a proper chaperone.
    This makes women oppressed, and men get a license for bad behaviour in the presence of a woman who is not escorted by family, as they are blameless for crimes against ¨shameless¨ temptresses, women who want to leave their house and go outside to take care of their own interests and errands
    Before things can change with attitudes towards men, societies/religions/governments need to address the cultural values that they perpetuate. This attitude is institutionalized in many parts of the world.

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    July 2, 2014 at 6:31 pm

    • Well I am sorry that you were raised that way, but that doesnt mean that every good man in the world should suffer for it.

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      July 2, 2014 at 6:35 pm

      • Nope, they shouldn’t. And such traditions that trample all over equality and empowerment should be abandoned. Making women dependent and branding men as animals is not helpful for any society. I won’t be teaching such garbage to my kids. I wasn’t raised that way, I was taught this, in adulthood, and I have rejected it, logically.

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        July 2, 2014 at 10:11 pm

  21. Hey, as a man – thank you!

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    October 14, 2014 at 9:01 pm

  22. Such a good post 😉

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    October 14, 2014 at 9:01 pm

  23. Good post. I agree and disagree with it.

    Let me explain.

    I agree because I often see men get put in a box because of their sex. In fact, I work in the social services, and I can tell you that because I’m male and working with vulnerable (often female) people, I get a lot of scrutiny from my superiors. That’s just one example.

    However, I think this is because while we can certainly site females doing violence (like you did in your article) violence against women (and probably in general statistically) is primarily caused by men.

    I think we need to figure out why. I think we need to question that, but I don’t think hating all men is the answer. Like any demographic, there are good people and bad. Alienating the good is never a good thing.

    Enjoyed your article!

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    October 15, 2014 at 11:32 am

  24. BruceStark2014

    Hey! I’m new to the blogosphere and stumbled on your blog. I am actually writing on feminism and its evils. Check out my blog when you get a chance! It would be great to collaborate!

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    October 23, 2014 at 3:59 pm

  25. Reblogged this on The Galaxy Beyond and commented:
    Finally From a lady !!

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    November 7, 2014 at 1:44 am

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